Don't Tell A Soul, This is Our Time...

Amazing sassiness and my desire to incorporate this attitude...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 08:01:44 -0400

Amazing sassiness and my desire to incorporate this attitude into my agendered adventures aside, this gif has just reminded me that Mary Poppins is an angel. Suddenly I have this insane desire for a fic with Cass, Dean, and Sam meeting Mary Poppins. She would totally go mother hen on those 3. She wouldn’t take any shit from them either. She would scold them for bad behavior, teach them better ways to do things & communicate, remind them all that life and living is awesome, tuck them into bed at night, and make them take their fucking medicine. Also, headcannon in this alternate universe in my head says that Mary hasn’t been involved in any of the action so far, because she’s been busy doing her family fixing thing.

doe-eyes: bettyrizz: good reasons to criticize taylor swift: slut shaming lyrics queerphobic...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 04:01:11 -0400

doe-eyes:

bettyrizz:

good reasons to criticize taylor swift:

slut shaming lyrics

queerphobic lyrics

shaming females who drink alcohol

other anti-feminist behavior

bad reasons to criticize taylor swift:

dating your favorite celeb

falling in and out of relationships frequently

screaming this at everybody

youcantroamwithoutcaesar: blacknoonajade: ogreenw0rld: im...

Mon, 08 Apr 2013 20:01:37 -0400

youcantroamwithoutcaesar:

blacknoonajade:

ogreenw0rld:

im done

This. Right. Here. Is. My. PRETTY BOY SWAG

My goal is now to have moves like this man. Agendered adventures COMMENCE!

odd-little-angel: The Sky is the Limit, star. by...

Mon, 08 Apr 2013 16:02:16 -0400

odd-little-angel:

The Sky is the Limit, star. by ~seasaltpepper

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Mon, 08 Apr 2013 12:01:59 -0400

witchsistah: internal-acceptance-movement: 10 SIGNS YOU MIGHT...

Mon, 08 Apr 2013 08:01:23 -0400

witchsistah:

internal-acceptance-movement:

10 SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE DATING OR FRIENDS WITH A MANIPULATOR:

1. Playing Innocent

A manipulator does not take responsibility for hurting others and instead plays innocent, acting like he is the harmed party when confronted about his hurtful behavior. By playing innocent and casting himself as the victim, he tries to throw his partner off balance, making her feel unjustified or even guilty about challenging his behavior. She may even become sympathetic, feeling that his bad experiences hurt him, instead of seeing his manipulative behavior as an attempt to win at all costs.

2. Rationalizing Behavior

A manipulator will offer rationalizations that justify his behavior, reasons that come close enough to making sense that the partner being manipulated is easily put off guard. The rationalizations are not his true motives, merely a means of justifying his conduct so as to avoid having to have a realistic discussion about changing it.

3. Now You See It, Now You Don’t

Try to discuss an area of disagreement with a manipulator, and the manipulator may try to retain control by changing the topic or throwing in everything including the kitchen sink to distract his partner from the discussion topic.

A classic example of how a manipulator diverts attention from the topic at hand is to talk about how the behavior he’s committed, and the partner has identified as a problem, is something other people do to him. He turns the discussion from his wrongdoing to how he is so often wronged.

Another approach is for him to introduce extraneous factors rather than respond directly to comments or questions.

4. Playing Dumb

Rather than address criticism or requests to change behaviors, a manipulator will often play dumb. With the goal of maintaining power and control, he will ignore the requests and not listen to others’s suggestions.

5. Sharing Half-Truths

A manipulator is likely to hide information that is relevant or deny his behavior by sharing just enough of the truth as necessary to convince others of his honesty. Key aspects of a situation may not be disclosed by a manipulator seeking to maintain control.

6. Inducing Guilt

A manipulative person makes accusations when confronted about his own behavior. Some classics are to accuse the partner of not loving him enough, not doing enough for him, or not doing enough to help him. His inability to change is portrayed as his partner’s fault. Typically, a manipulator chooses an empathetic partner who is vulnerable to this tactic.

7. Jokes and Insults

A manipulator will try to shame or intimidate his partner by making insulting remarks. When confronted, the manipulator will often try to pass off his rude and insulting remarks as “jokes.” A careful and honest listener will realize that his jokes are not funny and have serious, unfriendly overtones.

8. Blaming Others

A manipulator avoids responsibility for his own conduct by blaming others for causing it.

9. Minimizing the Significance of Behavior

Expect a manipulator to accuse his partner of making too big a deal out of his behavior. The partner will be accused of exaggerating the behavior itself or its significance. In other words, the manipulator contends “it’s not me who has the problem.”

10: Bullying the Victim

At the first sign his partner is trying to hold him accountable for his behavior, a manipulator may begin to turn the tables by bullying the partner. He may accuse the partner of wrongdoing on other occasions or of always treating him badly. By bullying the partner, he expects her to back off and let him maintain his controlling position.

***”Manipulation is a learned behavior — no one is born with it. It’s very much a survival strategy learned from early childhood and therefore changing the behavior is near impossible. Your time is better invested in developing strategies to protect yourselves, because you can never change a manipulator’s actions.”

In other words, dump the jerk and then look into how you attracted him in the first place. “Women who attract manipulators tend to lack self-worth and assertiveness, and they tend to be people pleasers. They trust to the point of ignorance and therefore do not realize that they are being manipulated until they have been in emotional turmoil for some time. It can often be years before they see the situation for what it really is.”

But once you do recognize it, you can put a stop to it. “First, take responsibility and own up to being a victim and a target. And most importantly, get out of the relationship and become who you really are; not something someone else wants you to be.”

Sources: Carol Bengle Gilbert and Colleen Oakley

Um, this is me dealing with White people 99.99% of the time.

thepoopqueen: until native americans roll up into europe and start taking things at their leisure,...

Mon, 08 Apr 2013 04:00:48 -0400

thepoopqueen:

until native americans roll up into europe and start taking things at their leisure, you can’t tell me it goes both ways. until puerto rican doctors start sterilizing white women, you can’t tell me it goes both ways. until a white “swagged out” justin beiber lookin ass kid in a hoodie gets shot down for dressing like a thug, YOU CAN’T TELL ME IT GOES BOTH WAYS.

“We’ve never had a female President in this country, which I...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 20:01:17 -0400

“We’ve never had a female President in this country, which I find stunning” - Hari Kondabolu

modernprimate: fuckyeahfeminists: oh that sounds...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 16:02:20 -0400

modernprimate:

fuckyeahfeminists:

oh that sounds terrible?

Three cheers for liberal indoctrination!

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Sun, 07 Apr 2013 12:02:13 -0400

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Sun, 07 Apr 2013 08:01:36 -0400

Fan: I’m from Texas too actually.Jared: Where?Fan: I’m from...

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 04:01:02 -0400

Fan: I’m from Texas too actually.
Jared: Where?
Fan: I’m from Corpus.
Jared: Yeah girl, I was just in Corpus.
Fan: I know!
Jared: Whatcha doing here, guuurl?

fuckyeahspiritedaway: Scultped model of the Spirited Away...

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:01:20 -0400

fuckyeahspiritedaway:

Scultped model of the Spirited Away Bathhouse.

membrane: Elihu Vedder / Young Marsyas (Marsyas enchanting the...

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 16:02:07 -0400

membrane:

Elihu Vedder / Young Marsyas (Marsyas enchanting the hares) / 1878 / Oil on canvas, 94.5 x 136.5 cm / via : blastedheath

Feminism has NOTHING TO DO WITH RACE WHY ARE YOU MAKING IT ABOUT RACE

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 12:02:18 -0400

white feminists: HOW IS FEMINISM A RACE THING
Indigenous Women: Because what you call feminism you stole from us, like everything else we owned. We'd like that back by the way.
Black Women: We were doing it and doing it better before you white girls too.
“Third-World” Women of Color: Because you justify bombing us in the name of Women’s liberation.
Men of Color: Because you depict us as being inherently sexual predators and criticize us more and more intensely than white men for the same shit.
Trans* Women of Color: Because you depict us as rapist men out to steal the female form and exclude us from spaces we desperately need to feel safe because people kill us and no one cares.
Women of Color in general: Because you refuse to acknowledge how your white privilege has been used to oppress people of color for centuries and the intersectional experiences that women of color face. How white supremacy, colonialism and imperialism imposed your shitty Western gender binary upon us with your shitty gender roles and your shitty patriarchy on top of the racism we face, makes us and our bodies seen as inherently rapeable, killable and less than subhuman. Acknowledge race you white fuckers.

ynnuf: You’ve been buttering your cats wrong this whole time.

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 08:01:40 -0400

ynnuf:

You’ve been buttering your cats wrong this whole time.

doctorwho: Rose Tyler and John Watson Parallels.

Sat, 06 Apr 2013 04:01:03 -0400

doctorwho:

Rose Tyler and John Watson Parallels.

Grumpy Cat to save the day. <3

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 20:01:29 -0400

Grumpy Cat to save the day. <3

imnotacisboy: J”aurais juste dit “cis people” mais bon.

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 16:02:12 -0400

imnotacisboy:

J”aurais juste dit “cis people” mais bon.

guerrillamamamedicine: setfabulazerstomaximumcaptain: sonic-hip...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:02:03 -0400

guerrillamamamedicine:

setfabulazerstomaximumcaptain:

sonic-hip-attack:

canikon-bokeh:

Exactly.

Imagine a wall full of circular holes, that circles can keep walking in and out of with no difficulty.

Now imagine that the triangles manage to get the resources together, after years of not being able to fit through the circle’s holes, to drill a single triangle space into the wall.

Now imagine that the circle — who previously supported the triangle’s efforts because they are well-rounded (har) and value equality — comes along and sees the construction project. But instead of being happy, they get angry.

“Well, I won’t be able to fit through your hole!!!!” the circle cries.

“I helped you get the drill!!!!” the circle shrieks.

“Make it fit me too!!!!” the circle demands.

The triangles, barely holding it together enough to get a triangle hole together, stare at the circle in confusion.

“You have all the holes you need,” the triangles explain. “This is for us. You don’t need to fit through our hole, too.”

“YOU’RE BEING UNEQUAL AND HURTING MY FEELINGS!” the circle wails. “I DON’T SUPPORT YOUR HOLE IF IT DOESN’T FIT ME TOO. GIVE ME MY DRILL BACK.”

“It’s not your drill, it’s our drill. You helped us get it, because you said you cared.”

“I ONLY CARED WHEN I THOUGHT YOU’D MAKE A HOLE EVERYONE COULD FIT THROUGH. YOU’RE PERPETUATING INEQUALITY!!!”

“Why is it up to us, the small group that has never been able to fit through the wall at all, to make a hole everyone can use? Why isn’t it up to you, the people who have been able to cross back and forth at will for years? We just want to see the other side; why are you yelling at us?”

“I DIDN’T ASK TO BE BORN A CIRCLE, OMG. I’VE HAD TO WORK HARD ALL MY LIFE TOO. YOU’RE JUST BEING BIGOTED AGAINST ME BECAUSE OF SOMETHING I CAN’T CONTROL, JUST LIKE EVERYONE IS AGAINST YOU.”

“You are interfering with our project and asking us to comfort you while we’re trying to make progress. Please leave.”

“I’m going to tell everyone about this,” the circle warns. “Nobody will support you now.”

“Apparently nobody ever did,” the triangles sigh, getting back to work.

It’s kind of sad

That we have to draw comics using colorful shapes

To explain systematic inequality to people

this is beautiful.